Service, Financial Submission, Sexual Availability

Do you include service as a part of your expectations of your submission? How do you define service? What does it mean to you? If not, what is it about the concept of service that is not for you?

Absolutely. I like being able to serve my Husband in any way that I can. I don’t want it to seem like I am “babying” Him or treating Him as a child. He is not another of my children but He is my Husband whom I love and respect deeply. I understand that He is fully capable of doing these things for Himself, but I enjoy and take pride in doing things for Him. He deserves it. Anything that would be added to my to-do list by Him would be considered priority and that’s where I would start for the day. defines service in a few different ways. #1 is “an act of helpful activity; help; aid: to do someone a service.” I can’t think of a better definition of my own. He works hard to support our growing family. I am very happy to help make His life just a little bit easier, especially at home.

Do you include financial submission within the definition of your own submission and if yes, how does it manifest itself? If no, is there a particular reason why? Are you familiar with the concepts of financial submission? Do you have an opinion about financial submission in general?

Well, I am a stay-at-home wife and mom so almost all of our income is from my Husband. I do get a little bit of child support every couple weeks, but not a lot. We have a joint banking account so all of our finances are shared. He handles all the money and makes sure all the bills get paid (with the exception of my credit card that I can just pay from my smartphone, but He tells me when I can make that payment). If I need to spend more than $100 I always ask first. I have full access to our account (including the password to check the balance and my own debit card), so if there are things that we need around the house I have the freedom to just go and get it. He trusts me that I won’t overspend on too frivolous of things. I will usually also go to Him if there is something specific that I want too. For the most part, He controls all of our finances. So this isn’t a very strict part of my submission, but we have our own version of it.

I think that financial submission can be good or bad depending on the type of relationship that each individual person is in. It may be a wonderful part of submission for one person but not be workable for another person. One of those “to each his/her own” type things in my opinion. Our version of it works for us in our relationship and I plan to keep it as a part of my submission (even in the event that I were to get a job, the finances would be my Husband’s domain). Though I will add, for larger purchase decisions we discuss them. He has the final say, but I do give Him my input on the matter. He would never go just buy a car without talking with me first.

Is sexual availability, being available to your partner any time he or she wants, part of your submission? Why or why not? Are there limits to this?

This is definitely a part of my submission. I am always sexually available to my Husband. The “always” in this case being 24/7. The term that keeps evading me when I’m actually speaking with Him but one that I have been wanting to tell Him is “blanket consent”. He has the right to any part of my body at any given time for whatever sexual use that He desires. I do not have very many limits to this (He does know them and fully agrees with them). I have certain things that I have requested be done beforehand if certain acts are required of me but I trust Him and am willing to explore almost any avenue that He could possibly fantasize about (though I do have those few limits).


7 thoughts on “Service, Financial Submission, Sexual Availability

  1. I am much the same! Im also a stay at home wife/mom/teacher! I am very much a fan of being of service to my husband. It makes me very happy to take care of him in many ways because he takes such great care of me as well.
    I am also financially submissive. I actually handle all of the accounts because it became an extra burden since he has such a demanding job. But we both discuss any big purchases. This has been our practice since we got married.
    As for being sexually available. …I am that 100% of the time. Anytime. ..anywhere. ..anything. He has my blanket consent. Of course we have our verbal “contract” which has our limits (also not many) in it. But its a verbal contract because we talk nearly every day about so many things so are subject to change based on how we are growing as a D/s-M couple. ♥

    • Thank you for the comment 😊 I have found that I have a lot more in common with others than I could have ever dreamed when I first started exploring myself and my submissive desires.
      I did write my limits down, but it was more to organize my thoughts rather than create a contract. It would be quite inconvenient to have a written one for us because things are ever changing, ever evolving.

      • I know! There are so many of us and I can’t believe how much we all relate….complete strangers…but I have this whole new circle of friends I can be totally myself with!
        We wrote some limits down too…just like you. get thoughts in order. But things change often!♥

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