I felt as though questions 7-9 were somewhat related to each other, so I put them all into one post. So here we go…
7) Do you accept and/or expect discipline or punishments as a part of your submission? How do you feel about it?
Now this is another excellent question. I don’t know that I would necessarily expect discipline or punishments, at least not any time soon. I’m not inherently naughty or bratty. I definitely test Him quite often, but am not naturally like that. In my mind, honest mistakes don’t deserve a punishment. If I did something on purpose like not doing something I was expressly told was priority then that would be grounds for a punishment of some sort. I would accept it. My aim is to please my Husband and if I have been deliberately disobedient than it was deserved. I would expect if there were to be any punishment that it would fit the “crime”. I feel like it is not needed often in my own personal relationship, but I would definitely accept it (while at the time I may not like it, it would help me to be a better person and how I can be a better and more pleasing wife/sub to my Husband).
8) Is spanking or corporal punishment a part of your submission? Why or why not?
This is kind of a tricky question to answer. Currently, we don’t implement actual spanking or corporal punishment (besides the lovely shade of pink I received the other day). We are still in the beginning stages. We only don’t use this type of thing yet because we are still working on figuring things out. That being said, I do think that a real good true spanking session would really help us in these beginning stages (not the love taps that take place during sex, I mean a real session where my butt turns a lovely shade of red). I am convinced that it would really help us in establishing our roles so much better. To me, it would be another tool on the table to use to re-establish the roles if the need ever arises as well. I would like real spanking (hand or implement) to be a part of our dynamic, but that is not for me to decide. In the meantime as I develop my submission to my Husband and He develops His dominance I will prepare myself as best I can for anything that might come my way.
9) Do you accept and/or expect structure, rules and limits as a part of your submission? How do you feel about them?
Honestly, I think that structure, rules, and limits are good for any relationship. Even in vanilla relationship each person has their own “rules” that they expect from the other. If you want your partner to remain faithful to you, then it is a “rule” that they should not be messing around with someone else (more often than not, at least with the people in my life, this is an unspoken rule that should just be understood within a relationship). In the realm of my personal relationship and its journey towards the D/s lifestyle, I would accept any structure, rules, or limits that my Husband would place upon me. Actually, I think that I have a craving for some specific rules from Him. Do I expect it? I’m not sure how to answer that part of the question. He has yet to set anything definite for me and I don’t know what to expect as we progress. Right now it’s more of a “wait and see” type thing.